#4

May 3, 2015

Hey!

     Sorry it's been a while, but life is pretty busy. I'm sure you guys will come to realize that there are always things that need to be done and it's pretty hectic. Anyway, that's not what this letter is about. This letter is about feeling left out. If I have a son, this analogy is probably not the best one, but if I have a daughter, I think this will for sure help you out later in life. And, son, keep reading because it's something you should now.

     There's always going to be things that you aren't going to get invited too. There's always going to be dances that nobody asks you to. There's always going to be parties that you can't go to even if you were invited. That is a part of life. But it sucks. In my case, there is the Military Ball next weekend and no one asked me. It's probably a little different for you guys--the whole dances and balls things--but it's still the same feeling. All of my friends are going (besides one, but I'll get to that point) and I really want to go. Also, your Uncle Jack is performing (Crack Drill, ask me about it or google it) at it and I want to see it because it is the last time he is ever going to do it because he's a senior. In my mind, I have more of right to be there then any body else really. But I was the one who didn't get asked. And it sucks.

     But there's a silver lining, I guess. Isabella, who didn't get asked because she was going to be out of town, invited me to go with her. So I'm not going to sit at home and feel sorry for myself which is probably a good thing.

     What I'm trying to tell you is that if that ever happens to you, or whenever you feel left it out, it's probably not because of who you are, and if it is because of who you are (which it won't be) then you are hanging out with the wrong people. When it happens, don't take it personally, although that can be hard (trust me I know). Just do something else that will make you happy. And, in the end, make the people who didn't invite you or where mean to you regret that they didn't. It is not your problem that they didn't invite you or that they didn't want to hang out with you. It is their problem. So, make them regret it.

Love, 

Mom

#3

January 13, 2015

Hey there!

     It's me again. So this letter is about school. Great, I know. Well, you should still read it because it's important. 

     School. Homework. Tests. Studying. Now, I'm guessing those things will probably make you shudder. I know it sucks. Really, I know. I'm in the middle of finals week now and I'm writing this because if I studied another Spanish vocab word without speaking a little English I think I would have lost it. Luckily for my parents, your uncle Jack and I never really had a huge problem with homework or tests. We also studied and did our homework when we were little and my parents just grew to trust us that we would get done what we needed to get done. Of course, Jack would always put off his summer reading homework until the day before we started school again, but he always got it done. I'm not saying we didn't procrastinate. Because before my finals of freshmen year I literally cleaned the bathroom so I didn't have to study. And you should see Jack and I's bathroom. It was not pretty (it still isn't really). I've always said that if you didn't like your life in middle or high school or you didn't like the place you lived or whatever, college was your escape. So get good grades and get out of the place you despise. Life really does get better as you get older. High school is way better than middle school and sophomore year is way better than freshmen year, so I'm sure that it just goes up from here. Now, enjoying the present and living the life you have is a different topic that I have a lot to say too, so that'll have to be a different letter. However, working to get somewhere better in the future is not ignoring or not living the life you have now. I like to think of it this way: remember the past, live in the present, plan for the future. 

     This is basically a plea. Please just do your homework and study for your tests. I study my ass off and work very hard to get the grades I have, and I believe it will pay off. Grades are a part of your life for now, but they won't always be, okay? However, life isn't just about school. Do something fun, go to a party, make mistakes, wear a fun color (coming from the person who literally only wears black, grey, white, and the occasional red or dark blue). Do your homework and then go to a movie (if that's still cool...?) after your test the next day. Ace your math test and then come tell me and I'll take you shopping or for ice cream or something. Do we have a deal? Because really, that sounds like a good deal to me. 

Love, 

Mom